W is for… Women In Web

Two talented women I know through the Lean In Wales Circle, Laura Dunn and Ena Lloyd, recently founded Women In Web, a blog that showcases successful women from all walks of life, sharing their stories and journeys. The purpose of the blog is to facilitate women of all ages to share experiences, knowledge and ideas with each other.

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If you visit Women In Web you’re likely to find: Q&As with inspirational women, for example Laura Trevelyan, Anchor for BBC World News America; editorial style pieces written by Laura and Ena; advice posts (most recently ‘ten mistakes to avoid when asking for a raise‘); guest blogs; and live Twitter Q&A sessions, encouraging readers to share and comment upon the content, participate in active discussion and embrace opportunities to be a starring part of the site by contributing content of their own.

I love what Laura and Ena are doing and I was fortunate enough to be asked to guest blog about my experience at Ignite Cardiff recently. I was thrilled to contribute, especially as it was my first attempt at blogging.

This is definitely a useful and engaging blog to follow for anyone who is interested in learning from other people’s experiences along the road to success.

D is for… Desire Map

The Desire Map is a concept created by the wonderfully inspiring Danielle LaPorte. It’s essentially a book, but it has evolved into a global community that LaPorte has created to encourage people to stop setting themselves endless lists of hefty goals to achieve and instead explore how they want to feel, in order to live happier lives.

An example of how it works is that on New Year’s Day I could set myself the goal of getting a pay increase by the end of the year, but the reason I want to achieve the pay increase might actually be because I want to feel secure, successful, recognised or affluent, which would make me happy. LaPorte’s Desire Map helps you to identify what your desired feelings are, which then allows you to explore how you could obtain these feelings more often, without having a huge end goal far off in the distance which you may never tick off your list. In the example above, if I didn’t get a pay increase by the end of the year then I might feel defeated and useless because I didn’t achieve the goal I had set myself, but in reality there could be hundreds of other things I could have done during the year to make myself feel secure, successful, etc., which is the important bit.

Earlier this year, Desire Map bookclubs popped up all around the world and I joined the Cardiff group, set up by Andrea Callanan, who kindly invited us into her beautiful home. We held six sessions where we worked through sections of the book together, watched videos, discussed some of the Desire Map concepts at length and explored what our Core Desired Feelings (CDFs) might be. We also ate an obscene amount of snacks, drank rather a lot of tea, wafted incense around (bloody hippies that we are!), relaxed and giggled like crazy.

I won’t tell you too much more about the book itself – if you’re interested, you can find out more here – but I will tell you that going along to the group helped me to clarify what I want to feel on an everyday basis in order to be happy. I’ve learnt that incorporating the Desire Map into every day decision-making makes me a happier person. I am invited to an event. Will it make me feel any of my Core Desired Feelings? No. I decline the invitation. I have an idea about an activity I could get involved in. Will it make me feel any of my Core Desired Feelings? Hell, yes! I’m in.

CDFs

B is for… Buffy

I am an unashamedly massive Buffy the Vampire Slayer fan. Buffy’s awesome; she’s a strong woman and she’s my role model. Here are five reasons why:

  1. She can defend herself. You don’t see Buffy running off screaming or being victimised like most females depicted in the horror genre (okay, so BTVS can also be categorised as comedy, action, romance, drama and possibly even musical but you know what I mean).
  2. She has plenty of her own problems but is able to stay focused enough to get on with her day job and continually save the world.
  3. She’s a great leader; she makes hard decisions that other people don’t want to for the greater good and she mentors and empowers a whole army of potential female slayers, sharing her knowledge and skills with them.
  4. She is friends with other strong women, who make as many mistakes and have as many problems as she does but they always overcome them.
  5. She wears stylish yet affordable clothes (’90s style is so back in fashion!).

What’s not to love?!

Buffy